What About You?
I know what you’re thinking. What ABOUT me? Well, I can tell you from my own experience that you are most likely last on your list of importance in your life. What do I mean by that?
As women, and more often as moms, we tend to think of everyone else’s needs before our own. Tell me if this sounds like you.
You are at your desk at work, glance at your Apple watch to see if you got in an adequate number of steps walking around your office all day when you suddenly realize, “Holy crap! I sent my kid to school today without making lunch! Omg, was he/she able to eat today? What if the school thinks I’m a horrible mother?” Relax, we’ve all been there. When my kids were in elementary school, there were the occasional “sign them into school with my pajamas on moments.” You don’t need to be perfect. No one is expecting you to be flawless in all aspects of life. And truthfully, most of us are just trying to keep our shit together at all times. Or at least look like we’re getting the job done. What would your life look like if you cut yourself some slack?
Maybe this sounds like you too. You get all dolled up after racing home from work to make an amazing meal for your spouse/partner to celebrate an anniversary. Trust me, I know you were proud of the spread you put on. Then they walk in the door with, “What’s this?” No flowers, no gushing of love for you etc. It happens to the best of us. I’ve learned over the years that these stories we tell ourselves (they are going to walk in with a bouquet of roses and those diamond earrings I’ve been eyeballing) are just that – STORIES. And when we formulate these ideas in our heads, it often leads to disappointment and a serious case of being pissed off. How can you learn to just let life unfold without expectations?
Here’s another scenario I’m almost positive you’ve encountered. You’re sitting on the couch with your partner for the possible third hour of a binge-worthy show on Netflix when all of the sudden, you have an epiphany of sorts. “Hey, we should go check out that new Thai place!” They look over at you like you have three heads, too busy being engrossed in the who-done-it of episode-who-cares! It’s not like out of the blue you suggested climbing Mt. Everest! Besides, it’s not like you have a Sherpa on speed dial. You sit there and move on to episode four and say nothing. How is being silent about your wants/needs serving you?
So I will ask again. WHAT ABOUT YOU? Let’s uncover what’s holding you back, keeping you stuck and making you feel like you need to be perfect all the time.